Moving Forward Together

"Any good that they did, any good they may have taught you, any way that they benefited you, carry it forward and be part of the reason that their scrolls of deeds continue." - Dr. Omar Suleiman

It's been two years since Mom left this dunya and I've been grieving her ever since. The moment mom left this dunya, I realized, I can never be the same person as I was before. Mom's departure from this world changed every aspects of my life: my perspective, personality, and relationship with friends and family. It's definitely not easy. There are times when you have to push yourself to be patient and do your activity normally, while in fact, you might be struggling to even wake up from bed with a mixture  feeling of sadness, grief, and anger. You may also feel extreme isolation/loneliness. On a personal level, I find it difficult at first to tell my stories to others, as others also have their own problem (That's what I thought before). But if you need to, then please surround yourself with people who understand your pain and supports you in a positive way. And I find comfort in Surah Yusuf verse 86 : 

"He replied, “I complain of my anguish and sorrow only to Allah, and I know from Allah what you do not know." (Q.S. 12:86)

This is what Prophet Yaqub (AS) said to his sons when they give negative comments on how Prophet Yaqub (AS) keeps on grieving/can't move on when one of his son, Prophet Yusuf (AS) was lost. I find comfort in this verse because it clearly mention that grief over your loved ones is a normal feeling that must be acknowledge and accepted. But what's more interesting is that Allah is The Only One who knows the intensity of the pain that you suffer. 

Even when your loved ones are not in this dunya anymore, there still ways that we can connect with them, and that is through prayer and doing good deeds on their behalf (those good deeds on their behalf are far more precious than anything you could have benefited them when they were still with you.)

As Dr. Omar Suleiman said, "Any good that they did, any good they may have taught you, any way that they benefited you, carry it forward and be part of the reason that their scrolls of deeds continue."

So, instead of moving on from your beloved ones, better move forward together. So that Insya Allah you can be reunited together in Jannah. 

Aamiin Ya Robbal Alamiin..